I stumbled across this quote this afternoon on pinterest and it got me thinking. It is very true and something I think I have been implementing for a while unconsciously.
I know I’m never going to get the apology I deserve for the way you-know-who treated me, it’s been over two years now since we separated. He is never going to call me up and say,
“hey, you know what, I fucked up. I know we had some issues but it was stupid and disrespectful of me to involve someone else in our lives and incredibly shallow and selfish of me to then walk away from our marriage and family to be with that ‘really good friend’ instead. My bad. I’m sorry”
It’s never going to happen. Ever.
For several reasons, one because he would never own his part of it or accept blame because that would make everyone see him for who he actually is and two because that stuff never happens in real life. You never get closure. Closure is a crock of shit. That kind of unresolved stuff just hangs around wide open forever because more often than not the other person is sitting in their own lives thinking they have done nothing wrong and that it was actually all your fault.
So the only way to get on with life is to just accept that there will be no Disney moment where apologies and forgiveness will be made and everyone lives happily ever after. So you’re better off as soon as possible starting to just act like you have already accepted the apology that will never come and move on.