Large families are tough. I’m guessing large families that are all biologically related are hard enough, but large families where children have been thrown together at random ages is really really tough. There is a constant battle of “the pecking order” and who is playing with who and which child is not aloud to join in. There is constant copying of the “favorite” and the “leader” (one guess looking at these two photos as to who the leader and the favorite always is??) and endless jealousy of what one person has compared to another. Is it fair? Is it even? if she/he has one i must have one. immediately. And it must be exactly the same.
One moment the are all playing wonderfully and everyone is included…then all hell will break loose for no apparent reason and it’s all out war.
Our biggest problem at the moment (in fact, make that always) is copy-cat behavior.
Trents girls are obsessed with Charlee…o b s e s s e d.
They copy everything she does, wears, says, eats, touches, plays, draws, sings, shouts, likes, hates.
and. it. drives. her. nuts
suffocates her. makes her go crazy. causes her to loose the plot and scream and shout. makes her run away and hide under her blankets, or in my room. block her ears and say la la la la la to make them go away.
She is patient and tolerant for only so much time…usually it gets to about half way through the weekend and her patience for it wears out. She collapses in an over stimulated frenzy and just wants them all to go away and leave her alone for five minuets.
This is the life of an introvert surrounded every weekend by extroverts. They suck the life out of her.
And the hard part is, no one is particularly to blame. They can’t help wanting to be and do everything she does…she can’t help not liking it.
No right. No wrong. No solution.
Just frustration for everyone involved.